We are two women... in our thirties each with a different story. We have been friends for 17 years. We have seen the highs and we have seen the lows in eachother's lives. Right now we each find ourselves a little low.. stuck... surviving day to day... but missing out on a life of thriving. We are tired. We are done. We need to change our lives... which means changing ourselves. Here we go....
This blog has been on my mind a lot lately. It is a project… a project of discovery that
I started years ago. It was meant to be
a quest to discovery. I was determined that if I journal the process, I would
find the path that leads from surviving to thriving. However, years have passed and ‘reasons’ I
may have once sensed were the obstacles to my thriving have changed.
Perhaps I thought that if I lost 20 pounds, I would be
suited to thrive more in my life – but if that was true, than now I need to
lose 40. If I felt it was my job, now I
can say that is one significant step in the right direction, but it didn’t ‘fix’
everything. I no longer feel that the
answer lies in eliminating the trials of life.
That is not realistic. Thriving
cannot be simply a life void of trials.
Thriving is a life full of trials wherein we experience joy.
Staying true to some of my original thoughts I do think that
sometimes life just hits us hard and that hit may de-rail us and we cannot
simply just return to the tracks. It is almost as if new tracks are required
and in the process of searching for those new tracks – we get lost off the
Marriage, children, job and even we may not be perfect but
we must find a way to discover a way of life and a pattern of thought within
the day-to-day surviving that allows us to thrive. Today (this is a quest for discovery – we’ll
see if my views of today turn out to be valid) I feel that there are two main
elements involved in thriving. 1. Aligning our will with God’s for our
life. 2. Setting goals and making
strides towards becoming all you can be and all that God wants you to be.
When we find ourselves ‘kicking against the pricks’ we are
certainly not headed in a direction of feeling like we are thriving. And when we press forward in life with a
stubborn attitude of thinking we have it all figured out and will take out
whomever and whatever is necessary to get what we want, again, it is only
common sense that tells me that will not lead to long-term happiness.
I know that God can do great things with us and as I reflect
on life and on all He has done with me, I recognize my times of greatest
happiness came from times when I was acting on impressions of the Spirit and
aligning my life to His will for me.
How does this translate to action: Well – I don’t think God’s greatest concern
for me in life is that I am a size 6. I
do however feel that He wants me to be healthy – as I can do more good for Him
when my body is in a condition to do that good.
So, I need to focus my goals to being items that I feel led to
accomplish. I really think that as I put
my focus and effort in areas where the Lord would have me, perhaps I’ll wake up
one day and find that the joy I feel from being on His path has given me more
energy and I’ll naturally become a size 10, then 8 and maybe even someday
6. But even if I don’t I will have found
that size 6 was not the source of joy.
My areas of concern these days are all around being a better
wife, mother, servant of God and prioritizing my own personal development.
How do I act on all of that?
Read, study and pray. Then act on
what I feel for each day.